Being in the middle of July has the majority of us enjoying our "Hot Girl Summer". Some anthems include Kali's "Area Codes" and Sexyy Red's "Pound Town". However, many people online have expressed disappointment in both the dating pool and how dating works in this day and age with apps like Tinder and Bumble.
Dating in real life in 2023 is nothing like what we see in TV and movies. It's rare for someone to go up to a person who they're attracted to and shoot their shot. Whether this is because they're scared or because of the fragile and sensitive nature of our society today remains up for debate. But one thing remains true: people are much more confident behind a screen than in real life. This virtual confidence doesn't lead them to actually try to build a relationship with someone though, most times it leads to sex-crazed maniacs.
Sex is a vital part of any successful relationship. While some may put less value on it than others, the general statement still remains true. But, relationships that are built on sex are more often than not destined to fail. Many people rely on physical attraction to make a relationship work, but it's so much more than that. For me, physical attraction is very important when it comes to picking who I want to get involved with. But, the mental attraction is what sets the distinction between partner and sneaky link. The problem is that many people don't know how to make this distinction and they wind up in "relationships" with people who they don't have any compatibility with besides good sex.
Another issue I have with dating in 2023 is the lack of loyalty. Don't get me wrong, I've done my dirt before, but that was after my partner at the time did the same to me. However, a lot of people cheat on and/or betray their partners in some way for no reason at all. It seems like everyone wants to step out on their partners. Without loyalty there is no trust, and without trust your relationship will go up in flames.
Dating in 2023 is much different than in the 90s and early 2000s (or so I've heard). Growing up in an era where everything is online and it seems like everyone is out for themselves has taught me to always be cautious of who I'm getting involved with whether it's platonically, romantically, or sexually. It's taught me to have high standards and not to lower them for anyone because it will only backfire in the end. Finally, I've learned to only fight for what's worth fighting for and to not waste my time with superficial, short-lived flings.
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